Why Men Are Being Marginalized

She was angry. She wouldn’t look at me. She would only look at her daughter and then, plaintively, at the judge. I had taken her to small claims court after she suddenly ended her daycare facility but refused to return money I’d paid in advance for the month.

The judge, a man if his bald head and name were any indication, kept letting her speak, but silencing me. I didn’t think much of this for the first few minutes, as all the facts were clearly on my side. I had receipts for the money. She had suddenly ceased her business without notice. She acknowledged taking my money.

When the judge asked if we’d go to the back of the courtroom to see if we could come to an arrangement, I said, “Sure.”

She said, “No, he only wants his money.”

I replied that I’d take it in installments, but the judge silenced me again. He was clearly empathetic for her and her daughter.

This is when it occurred to me all the way through why men are being marginalized. I wanted the rules—in this case the law—clearly and fairly administered without prejudice for any physical characteristics or otherwise. She was playing up an appeal to emotions with her daughter as a prop.

The judge, as men can and will be, felt protective of her. She was clearly taking advantage of his misguided chivalry.

Men will insist on clear rules. We like rules. We create hierarchies. We expect the rules of the game to be administered equally. How someone feels does not impact whether a rule in sports is broken; it does not change a goal being scored or a blow struck in boxing or the UFC. If a ref sides with someone for emotional reasons we boo and demand replays. We want actual justice.

This manly demand for actual equality under the law is not helpful to the woke who want to rip down so much of the justice system, and sports (by letting men in women’s sports), and the workplace (with forced arbitration agreements and HR ladies…) and so much more.

That judge, though, could not simply tell the woman I took to court that she did not have to pay. Things have not yet gone that far in the small town I live in. So he reduced the amount by a third. He did this while forbidding me to speak and while letting her go on and on. Together they spun a narrative that I should not have paid in advance. All I could do was shake my head. I did get a check weeks later for the reduced amount.

Now I just see this as another lesson learned. And as a clear and concise example of why those who are now playing identity politics to gain power outside of the rules must destroy men to get away with it.